We often get ahead of ourselves going out of our way to offer help, sometimes packaged as a form of “bettering” agenda, but you’ve got no idea how it will be interpreted or even received. Here’s is one experience.
I found an opening coming up in an area and thought I’d observed that as an opportunity for an emerging business entity to take advantage of. In order to ensure efforts and energy were well consolidated towards the opportunity, o felt it wise to consolidate efforts, but it was just my thinking.
Reception to the idea was at first very keen, but then I with a positive disposition about hoping to invest in this business entity through a consolidated model disregards the pride that the other party also had, and went on a wild limb. Well, eventually it might have come across confusing to the other party my intent and they opened up.
In opening up, the business entity expresses a need to be clear what I want. Now remember my intent was to rather help, with zero intent to be helped. Perhaps even to the point that I was offering something to someone without even saying I’m giving it to you free just so I can see them taking it up as a squared focus and more so that they really wanted.
At the end of the day, it became obvious, that while my intent was to help without necessarily making it obvious with my secondary motive of give away something, including a business empire with a well lit and connected structure, perhaps my approach may have robbed them in a way as to seem like the needy one. And indeed it was.
Upon reflecting on their response for hours, I knew I had erred. I had assumed too much and offered too much on a platter that hadn’t actually hadn’t been requested. I figured I had actually come across as rude, perhaps even over presumptuous to think that my observation of their state of being, and their approach to business could be optimized on my account of what is better. Indeed who am I to think my help is what the other seems as help?
In the end it’s clear… I was the one who needed help. And now I’m with wisdom.
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